So the more I have worked and been away from my little one, I have felt more and more detached from my child. I don’t know why I have but I have felt guilty for having to be away from her, that being said I try and play with her as much as I can when I am at home.

I recently called my best friend, who has just gone back to work after her babies first year, and she feels guilty too. He has been sick and she can’t be there for him like she use to be.

Mom Guilt is not something that people talk about much or at all. I know it is a terrible thing and I couldn’t get passed it. I still struggle with it but I can’t afford to stay home. Which I hate very much but it’s part of my life currently. But I have to push through that and move on with my daily life.

When my best friend and I were talking on the phone the other day, the advice that she always gives me and that I got to give back to her is, it’s okay! It’s ok to feel guilty, sad, like you’re a bad parent, like you’re missing out, that you want to do better, but you can’t stay there. Once you feel all those emotions, come out of them. Don’t waller in those feelings and emotions forever because if you do, they own you and you have given them that power.

As moms we don’t always give ourself that time to feel those emotions and move on. I have suffered from depression since have EJ. It has been super hard to work through. I have gone to therapy, I have talked it out but I haven’t found the right person for me.

The best part of it though is, I haven’t given up. I am trying meditation in different forms. I talk things through with my spouse, I don’t close him off from my emotions. Once you do that, you create more issues. Having mom guilt is hard enough without having marital issues on top of that. If you are a working mom, you are my hero, if you are a stay at home mom, you are my hero, same if you’re a dad or sibling that takes care of a child. It doesn’t matter who you are, what person you are married too or if you’re a single parent. You are my hero.

We all work through things. We just need to remember to not hold on too negative things. Don’t hold on to false positives either. Let whatever emotion it is, flow! Allow yourself to be you! People will always agree and disagree with you, they will always judge you or support you. Just be you! Take a deep breathe, slowly let it out and cry, laugh, scream, punch your pillow, if you need too. Don’t let your mom guilt steal who you are.